In 7 years in this line of work I have met many men. More than I care to say if I’m honest (no I don’t keep count that would be uncouth!). Most of them are unmemorable, your typical average Joe who drives a Vauxhall, stays for 30 mins and sends you a little text after to say thanks. I love this kind of man. Non nonsense emotion free regular client.
But one day over a year ago I met different type of man. This man was in a sense still your average Joe. Only he drove a Fiat, stayed for an hour and I fell head over heels in love with him.
He was by no means rich, he wasn’t Brad Pitt and he didn’t even tip! But. He made me laugh uncontrollably, made me orgasm till the hairs on the back of my neck stood on end and he always looked me right in the eye. I knew from that very first appointment that this was going to be dangerous. I knew it but for all my smarts I couldn’t help myself falling for him.
I love him and he loves me- parfait. I’m sure you want to know how it has ended- well tough. I’m keeping shtum. My situation itself is unimportant.The situation that I wonder about- is it worth quitting for a man?
You see most often as an escort you meet your parter in work. He books you as an escort, you have a great (seriously awesome) time and then emotions start to get involved. From my own personal experience and from what I know of others, this is where it starts to get tricky.
A lot of men expect that now you are in a relationship with them you’ll hang up your stockings and take on a minimum wage job in your local Tescos. The fact that you are now “with” them means that escorting is no longer an appropriate job. To some degree I understand this, I mean what man wants his lady to be shagging other guys. However I feel that they need to realise that most of us see it as just a job. For the most part we are actresses. Whilst we may provide a girl friend like service we do it for pay. Disconnected from our relationships and nothing more than sex.
It is hard to explain this to your now boyfriend. Beacaus while h was your client he may have understood. It’s just sex. But the fact that he knows you fell emotionally involved with him means he knows it could happen again. It is human insecurity at it’s most basic I guess.
As an escort you are put in a awful position. Your career and independence VS your man. You have grown accustomed to a certain way of life. Being your own boss, making good money etc but now this man wants you to give it up for him! What do you do?
Agree that you will quit hoping you can settle in to a “normal” way of life? I mean what’s “normal” anyway? All the while hoping you won’t grow to resent him for changing your life. Hoping that your relationship will work otherwise you will have wasted X amount of time with this man.
Or tell him no. No you won’t quit. He met you and fell in love with you while you were escorting. He knew what you did and was fine with it. But now he wants you to change for him? Surely you are not meant to try and change the ones you love!?
I know what I did.
What would you do?